What Happens At A Real Swingers Party
De Mystifying What Happens At A Suburban Aussie Sex Party
© David Newton - July 10, 2009

If you only watched TV shows and movies, you’d think all swingers events were dry places of sexual freedom and that fetishes of black plastic gear and straps was all the go.

The fact is, most of the 97% writers who write for TV or movies have never ever been to a swingers party in their lives and have little if any due diligence done about the exact nature of what happens at a swingers party – so lets take a look at what the real picture is about these events and de-mystify what is actually a loving social environment for both couples and singles attending.

At The Door

A girlfriend of mine gave me the invite to go so I naturally said “Yes” and wanted to attend to see for myself what it was all about.

We arrived at the door of a home way out in the suburbs of Brisbane. A very sexy mature blond lady welcomed us at the door she was wearing a very Low V Cut breast revealing top and short pants. We paid as a couple which was only $30 at this event.

Inside A Big Home

Shortly we were in the dining room and kitchen area of the home. Several people had al ready arrived ahead of us and my girlfriend was saying her hellos and kissing and hugging both men and women she knew. Since it was my first meeting, she was doing her best to introduce me to many of the ladies present.

The home was a two level house. – upstairs were a couple of bedrooms and downstairs next to the dining area was a spare room which was also used for sex and a massage table in it, however unlike the rooms above this room was for public sex. Thus others could watch and admire the activity.

The living room of the home was nice and the TV was on with a DVD playing and plenty of seats, and a couple of couches for people to sit on and chat and watch.

Outside there was a spacious grassy area with an unused pool. Many seats were outside for people to sit and chat and some room for a tiny few who smoked.

There were plenty of snacks and finger food plus lots of soft drinks. What I liked was seeing people chatting happily and in a friendly environment.

Sexy Dress

While the women seemed to wear everything from revealing lingerie to skimpy outfits and some males were in daring gear, the vast majority were dressed in casual clothing. Some ladies were topless or naked which had just been to the public room with a partner. A lot of the women there were braless and looked alluring to the eye.

These were in fact ordinary people. Suburban people who were interested in sex and pleasure and the variety it gives to a relationship by mixing with others doing so. Most of these people were middle class – quite a few were professional people and articulate on many topics. But in common was one thing, a desire to share affection and body to body contact sex with others in a friendly open environment.

About an hour into the party I noticed a queue upstairs. I had to go to the bathroom and one of them was upstairs so I passed by several couples who were talking, fondling and holding onto each other. Their was a certain enthusiasm about them and it was an easy going atmosphere.

Many Extra Single Ladies

Single women or women who have a partner elsewhere are allowed in free of charge. Some of these ladies are married but come to the parties as their male partners aren’t able to perform sexually or they simply wish to have alternate experiences and enjoy meeting friends they have known for years at such events. Some of the women swing with other women at these events and most certainly have regular males they meet as a result of going to the parties.

While this was a first event for me – I saw many women go to the public room with partners and then back again with another partner a short time later. Women seemed more proactive in making things happen than the males.

I was lucky in a way to have a girlfriend show me the ropes as it was. She introduced me to many women some married some not. This meant for me that at future parties I was able to spend time with several women as a direct result of being referred by my girlfriend at the first event.

Single Males Needed At Swingers Parties

While its true single males love to go to these parties, not many know how to get sex action while they are there. What I found works best is if you are going on your own to spend time going to parties networking and establishing connections first. Lots of talk and if you are with other males – split away from them.

You can also make connections with other women and go with a partner so as to circulate like a swinging couple. While not entirely necessary, and this could take a while to happen, you can also use the social groups found on swingers websites as a way to be known to other swingers or couples so that you make new potential sexy friends at the parties well before you attend them. Put your face on your profile to help this.

Later that night

Being my first party I didn’t score that night. However I did spend time connecting and kissing a few ladies present and as it was had a few future sexy dates for the next time round. This for me actually paid off. I later had sex with women I met from my first swingers event, ladies who was introduced to and some I made as connections on my own. The swinging community is small in most cities and if you are a regular attendee your face will be known and you’ll have enjoyable sex with some great women. Some of those women I’d even met on the dating sites, which was even better that they knew my friends and girlfriend etc.

The party thinned out at around 11.30pm and numbers that were crowding around looked quite low. My girlfriend and I went back to have and enjoyable night and was even more stimulating than what most couples would do. Most parties finish around 1AM ish.